Learning Through Failure and Giving Your Child the Opportunity to Take Responsibility for Their Learning

 Self-control is an essential trait that anyone should develop, and this is relatively true for our kids since there are lots of distractions in their environment. Right now, your child might be glued to a screen, and they may not be able to focus on schoolwork or you can’t even talk to them when they’re in the middle of their game or chat.

This can be quite frustrating for parents, so it’s essential to guide your children and help them develop sufficient self-control. In fact, practice makes perfect, and having this one crucial trait will bring them success in the long run.

The first thing you need to do is to set some rules in your home and develop study routines that are mandatory and should be followed by your kids. In the long run, you’ll have yourself a self-control champion that will always stick to the regimen.

Now let’s break it down a bit more so you’ll want what we can make of this new perspective.

• Patience and practice are the keys to success

Like what we’ve tackled on the first part of this article, it will take time and effort to develop self-control because it is comparable to a muscle that we often exercise and go to the gym to train our muscles and make them much stronger than what they are now.

It will take time, and a lot of patience before your kids develop self-control, but as long as you keep at it they will eventually have it and there will be no real limit to what they can achieve once they develop it. In fact, one day your kids are going to put down their mobile phone without being told beforehand.

• Failing is part of growing

We all know that it’s not easy to stick to the rules, so when your child fails to follow it, you need to be clear that they are responsible for their action. So, when they don’t study for their exams, then there’s a big possibility that they will fail the test.  

Sometimes you need to let them fall on their face and experience failing. So, when they fail some of their tests at school, they will eventually learn from that experience and your kids will find new ways to cope with bad habits since they now know the result of their previous action.

That is why you need to be firm and impose the rules that you’ve set especially when it comes to their schoolwork. Creating study routines and setting a definite schedule is the way to go, so your child will also develop good study habits – and we all know that this is the recipe that will lead them to academic success.

• Kindness goes a long way

Remember to be kind both to yourself and your children because there are days when your kids might be their worst selves. So, when they are misbehaving, you might immediately lash out and punish them for their actions.

But you need to understand that the pain you’re feeling is just a symptom, sign or a signal that both you and your child is just stretching your mental muscles and learning how to walk. You need to control your feelings and take it slowly since it’s all part of the process. Keep breathing and take one exhausting day at a time.

You and your child will eventually reach your ultimate goal of developing self-control and sticking to good study habits.